Most of us probably heard that communication is key to a relationship. The problem is that sometimes knowing something doesn't necessarily mean we "get" it. Often times our heads and hearts don't connect. Communication is super important though to every relationship, especially with your spouse and/or significant other.
As some of you may know, I am a huge football fan. The other day I was watching football, and I noticed something that could be applied to marriages. The players that kept their feet moving got tons more yardage consistently out of a play than those that just stopped when they got hit. My favorite college team is Penn State, and they have a stud running back, Evan Royster. The announcers were talking about how when Royster rushes for over 100 yards, Penn State always wins. Where am I going with this? Marriage is very similar - if we keep moving forward then we not only get more yardage out of each "play" (or moment) in life, but we usually win too. If you just give up though on things, then the play is dead, and the majority of times, you won't win either. You have got to keep moving, and communication is a big part of that movement.
This week, I will be talking all about communication - power of communication, what to communicate, problems with not communicating, and how to communicate. Make sure to join me this week!
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I must say that my spouse isn't much of a communicator! That is putting it mildly! Even when we "fight" it is me doing all the talking, yelling or just trying to make up with a sweet word. This is a real problem if only one person in the relationship communicates. I often feel like it is a form of rejection. If I even ask a question, it doesn't always get a response. Many times I say it 2-3 times before the answer comes.
Janet~ Thanks for writing and sharing your situation! That must be a very challenging situation for you to find yourself in, and I can imagine that you would definitely feel things like rejection as a result of your husband not communicating. It's very challenging and frustrating when only 1 of you will communicate. Have you ever tried sitting down with him (no distractions like the TV on) and telling him how important communication is for you and for you relationship, how it makes you feel when he refuses to communicate, how you feel it's affecting you and your relationship, and what you need from him? I know it must be so frustrating, especially when you can't even get him to communicate when you are fighting. If you can't get him to communicate at all, even after you attempt to share the above things, then I would try to get some professional help. Thank you so much for sharing your story, and I pray that things get better for you! Let me know if there is something more I can do for you.
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