While a lot of you are married, there are a lot of you not married. As much as I love addressing marital issues, most of them start before we ever get married. Being careful and particular of who you marry, implementing good habits, working out some of your issues, and building that strong foundation are all things that I wish every couple could do before they got married. Starting out on the right foot helps so tremendously because you typically haven't already built up a huge wall between the two of you or piled on the damage from unresolved issues. It gives you the opportunity to start out strong and prevent a lot of potential problems. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't really think about the long term when they decide to marry someone. Sure you think you are madly in love and want to be with them forever, but do you ever really think about what that means, what that entails, and what that looks like?
This week I want to go through some really important things for people who are engaged, in a serious relationship, in a new relationship, dating, or that are thinking marriage is somewhere in their future. As I always say, marriage is one of the most incredible things we get to experience here on Earth, and my hope is that this series will help to get you started off on the right foot when you are ready for that step.
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Just found out something interesting, marriage had a biblical start. Is that why so many seem clueless? I read one of your comments where someone referred to you as a preacher. I couldn't figure out why you always bring your writings to a different level, or one I never thought much about. So, does the bible have much to say about how a "good" marriage is to operate? Do you and your husband follow these biblical rules? Does this make a difference? Is it ever too late to start over and try to use a different method? Can only one spouse trying to use the bible style make a difference?
Anonymous - Thank you so much for writing! You are right, marriage does have a biblical start, and unfortunately that realization has been lost amidst our culture these days. The Bible has a ton to say about how a "good" marriage should operate, and I am glad you brought that up because it's a series I want to write on. One of the biggest concepts is found in Ephesians 5:22- 33 in the Bible. One of the biggest premises for a happy marriage is this concept of women respecting their husbands and men loving their wives. Seems simple, but that's because it is a simple concept that we complicate and struggle with. The Bible also emphasizes being other-oriented, which is something so simple and yet we once again struggle with it. The Bible really does have a lot to say about marriage and how to have a good one. My husband and I sure do try to follow these Biblical rules, and we have found much success in them! We always pray for each other & our marriage and pray with each other, which is something we have found to really bring us closer. This "higher accountability" has made a huge difference in our marriage, and I have seen it do the same in a lot of other marriages as well. It is never too late to start using a different method. It may take a little time to get used to, but I believe that it is well worth the new effort! Only one spouse can try using the Bible style, and it will definitely still make a difference. It can be a challenge though to be in a situation where 1 person has different beliefs than the other, but often times the other person will see the difference and follow suit. This can take time and tremendous patience though. I am so encouraged by your comment and want to encourage you that if you need any further help or resources, I would be more than happy to help! Feel free to leave more comments with your questions or email me directly at ashley@littlewifey.com!
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