Love Tip #2

Alright, so we have been discussing the 3 types of love in a marriage. Now it's time for a little practical application...

Take time this weekend to sit down with your spouse. Pull out your wedding photos and/or video and other reminders (pictures, souvenirs, videos, etc.) of some good times you have had together. Take the time to look through them together and reminisce about those good memories and how far you have come. Chat about which were your favorites and why. If you are looking at your wedding photos/video, talk about that day and what it meant to you. Discuss what made you fall in love with your spouse, how you met, some tough times you have made it through together, some of your favorite times, and what you look forward to doing together in the future. The objective here is to remind yourselves of those good times, realize how many memories you have made, refresh some of those feelings, commitment, and thoughts you had coming into your marriage. Sometimes we get so burdened down with pain, disappointment, and negativity that we forget that we did love and enjoy each other (even if it has been awhile since we can remember those days). Especially if your marriage is really struggling right now, this can be such a beneficial activity to do together or even by yourself if your spouse refuses. Try not to allow yourself to focus on negative memories - the point is to remind yourself of good times, good memories, and strengths of your relationship. If your past is plagued with tough times, focus on the fact that you have somehow made it through together, which is a major positive. Sometimes we just need a reminder of the positives to keep us going and encourage us. If you have a chance, go out on a little date together post discussion. It can be as simple as a 30 minute walk together where you continue reminiscing, or you can do something like go to dinner, pack a picnic & go to the park, or check out a theme park. Try to do something that both of you enjoy(ed) doing together!

Let me know how it goes! Have a wonderful and blessed weekend!